Esther Perel on Artificial Intimacy

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1. Artificial intimacy is fundamentally changing human relationships. Technology has altered the way we approach dating, friendship, and community, rewriting the meaning of core aspects of our lives - and this largely goes unquestioned.
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2. Is an AI therapist better than no therapist? Many clients are pleased with therapy bots. Many people receiving AI-assisted therapy believe they have therapeutic experiences and breakthroughs. However, when you examine the qualitative data, it falls short. Clients may lower their expectations to match what technology can provide, and they receive less effective care. 
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3. Hold space to experience the friction and failures that help shape your understanding of yourself. Being aware of the needs of others and our behavior's impact on them is part of growing up. It’s difficult to build that awareness when most of your connections are virtual, and we’re experiencing more anxiety and less intimacy as a result. 
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4. It’s hard to deal with the complexity of how many relationships we manage. Esther notes that modern loneliness often presents as hyperconnectivity. While you may have a thousand virtual friends, getting someone to pick up a package for you when you’re out of town may be challenging. 
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5. Companies can add dimensions at the design level to encourage in-person connection. Instead of designing technology solely to maximize virtualization and efficiency, it could also be built to foster relationships. Use technology to connect, and then consider gathering a group to meet in person.

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